We share our life with each other. We share passwords. We
share the ice cream, so, do we share the household work. And that’s what
keeps us all the more close and attached. Sharing the domestic responsibilities is perhaps one of the best ways to tell your partner that, whatever life has to offer, we are
together- to enjoy it, to bear it, and to live it.
We make walking in the departmental store to buy groceries,
as romantic as sitting on the beach, hand in hand, watching the sunset.
He knows what flavor of Rasna I like, and I make sure I do
not forget to get those orange candies he loves. While I select the best
shaving gel for him, he picks up the best shampoo according to my hair type.
Buying groceries for the month cannot be a mundane affair if the partners
consider this otherwise boring activity, a way to show how much they care about
each other’s like and dislike.
When the maid does not show up, it is fun to divide the cleaning up tasks. I scrub the utensils, and he washes them. Because he
says that my nails are too delicate to bear the harsh dish wash soap. And I
know, he likes playing with soap bubbles, so scrubbing the dishes is kinda play for him,
so I let him do that. And the playful splashing of water and bubbles on each other is all
that makes dish washing so much fun and enjoyable.
While I wash the clothes in the washing machine, he dries them on the clothesline. Because
that requires more physical strength, according to him. He is Man of the house,
he says J
So, he chooses to do the difficult jobs himself.
Cooking is not just a routine business. He is fond of
eating, as well as cooking. And I know the fact well that the way to a man’s
heart goes through his stomach. So, if I surprise him with his favorite dinner
on a Friday evening, when he is late from work, he is ready with my favorite
breakfast on the Sunday morning. So, there are culinary surprises for each other at
least a couple of times in a week. We add the most important ingredient to all
the food we cook- Love. And that makes everything just yummy.
And how can I forget that if he is at home, and we need
chopped onions, he never lets me do it. He would do it himself, always. He
says, he cannot see me in tears.
I never felt that since I am the woman, so it is just my
duty to manage the household.
Maintaining the wardrobe is one task we both despise. So, we
take turns. If we need a plumber, I call and get things done. He hates calling
people. But when it comes to paying the bills, it is his department. So, I
hardly worry about the savings and the spending.
I make the bed at night, he folds the bed sheets in the
morning. And I being the obsessed one to decorate the house with stuff, he just
plays the role of a critic. Yes, take this, this is good. Not this one, not
that great. Even that is fun.
We make house a home - out of love.
Love is not just telling each other the three words. I see
deep love in my husband’s eyes, when he makes me coffee in the morning. We
respect each other’s role in making life easy and comfortable for one another.
As many of my friends dread that being a mother will only squeeze out energy and time out of life, and it would be more trouble than joy. But, I am quite sure, that the bundle of joy in our life, will bring in more love, and togetherness. Because, we share every responsibility equally. It's not only me who will have to change diapers or rock the cradle all night.
Marriage is a lovely journey. And each moment, each activity,
when done together, can be joyful. Imagining the wife does all the household
chores, and the husband does his part of the duties, would make life so boring.
Sharing the load makes each other feel cared for. It unites the two. It strengthens
the bond. Makes both the partners feel equal. Feel respectful for each other.
And, in fact, the load does not seem a load at all. All of it becomes memories
worth cherishing.